Guidelines for telling children about parental divorce
Editor’s note: The following is taken from "Little People: A
Commonsense Guide to Child Rearing," by Dr. Edward Christophersen,
clinical psychologist, Developmental and Behavioral Sciences at
Children's Mercy Hospitals and Clinics.)
Be honest and straightforward.
Tell your children as soon as a definite decision has been reached.
Remember that you may need to repeat information.
All family members should be present.
Describe changes that will occur in detail, especially for younger
children (living arrangements, pets, cooking, etc.).
For older children, outline steps that have been taken to save the
marriage.
Emphasize that both parents will continue to love and care for the
children.
Don’t assess blame.
Emphasize that the children did not cause the divorce.
Encourage your children to ask any questions they may have.
